The Attitude of Gratitude exercise is a first step in establishing a reciprocal nurturing relationship with nature. The next step is to create a cycle of nurturer. In order to receive nurturing, we must be willing to give nurturing in return. By opening yourself to the idea of being thankful to nature for her bounty, we are able to connect more fully to nature and to ourselves by removing obstacles to connection like ungratefulness, unwillingness, and indifference.
All relationships have difficulties. From time to time we argue with our loved ones, and disagree. The next time you find yourself in such a disagreement, practice the exercise below. It works with romantic relationships, with parents and children, with family members, and with friends. It works with pretty much any relationship where people interact with each other.
The next time another person has a problem with you, try saying this to them:
“I understand that you are suffering. I am here for you. I hear you. I care. Please tell me how I may help.”
The next time you have a problem with another person, try saying this to them:
“I am suffering. I see that you are here for me. I hear you. I care. Please help me.”
These simple phrases, adapted from the Four Mantras by Thic Nhat Hanh, let the other person know that you value the relationship enough not to let the problem interfere. They also let the other person know that they are valued, and that you care for them. They also open the door to helping both partners feel heard and understood.
Practice these phrases with a loved one a few times before going on to the Cycle of Nurture exercise on the worksheet below.
